The Intimidation Cycle

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I look at how hard people try to combat fear with fear --
  • X is afraid of Y, so 
  • X tries to make Y afraid of them in return, and 
  • X escalates to make sure Y is the more afraid, so 
  • Y cranks up the intimidation even more, because
  • Y can't let X win.
  • Y says "X needs to fear US!", so 
  • (repeat paragraph)...
I wonder, how long will we keep doing this?

And I'm told: as long as the other guys are winning.

Breaking the cycle is possible, but you can bet that when it ends, it won't be because one side won.



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