Curiosity over Judgment: getting past defensiveness.
Say someone wants some aspect of my behavior to change: dress, schedule, food, drink, speech, whatever. I initially get a little upset, defensive. But that's not productive. That's just anger and ego protection. Is there a more excellent way? I'm told that the secret to success is to replace judgment ('that's none of your business", "you are trying to control me", "screw off, I do what I want", "that's not fair") with curiosity . "replace judgment with curiosity " Curiosity. Hmmm. Let's try that. I wonder where that will lead. I'll have to suspend my anger and judgment and blame and quit assigning motives to others if I'm going to process this with curiosity. So much is possible now, and there are so many questions: So, why is it so important to you that I change how I behave? Is it for a purpose? Does it serve you in some way? Is it because you care about me and think it ...